When do you experience happiness?
The feeling of happiness does arise for instance when you have solved a difficult problem and you are proud of what you have accomplished, when you feel free, when you feel high energy in your body and you process this energy to movement, when you have the feeling that you are lucky or when you feel connected to something or somebody. In essence it is a feeling of inner expansion. To be more. To be free.
Since I have already dedicated a page to the areas of performance and freedom elsewhere on the website, I will now go into more detail on the feeling of connectedness.
With connection normally is meant the depth of empathy or positive feeling we have towards other human beings, animals, places or even objects. When do you feel connected to somebody or something?
The more you have in common with somebody and the more attributes you see in the other you desire, the stronger is your feeling of connection. You see yourself or what you want to be/have in the other.
When you tend to envy the opposite effect may come about. Especially when you have a heated argument with somebody, somebody disappoints you or your worldviews are different, you may feel division.
Can this be the foundation of true connection? Can true connection rely on the constructs of our self-centered thought structure? Isn’t true connection something tangible? Not just a feeling you create in your mind?
Only when you are free of all the dependencies and limitations, brought about by beliefs, ideologies and other mental constructs, you can truly connect.
But isn’t love the ultimate form of connection? When you fall in love with somebody, the other becomes your ultimate desire. The absolute focus on the other person leads to a temporary detachment of the perception of your own limitations so that you feel perfect.
To truly connect and truly love you have to be complete by yourself.